What? You have a lot to say here! Lis, I am not saying sit down with your H and tell him a story 6 hours long. I am saying start with one thing and grow from there.
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I don't think people really give a rat's behind about me and what I think.
Really?
How do you know?
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I want my old relationship back
What is stopping you?
I think you know the answer.
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He definitely is walking around like a dog with his tail between his legs. If you ask him right now, EVERYTHING is his fault.
Ego is bruised and you have given him no reason to have his confidence back.
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Of course, everything is not his fault.
Doesn't sound like he knows that.
What is your part in this LIS?
That is where the connection begins to happen.
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What happens when they convince him again?
Friends and family are like boomerangs. If you do what you know you have to do his cheerleading squad can actually be the very thing that helps him come back to you.
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Why did they do it in the first place?
Who cares! The motives are not important only the results. You control the results not them.
Lis I find you fascinating because you come to my thread and others and analyze a sitch and give some really thought provoking advice, yet I come here and instead of falling apart like I do with my own sitch you are able to dissect your sitch very well but you are paralyzed to do anything about it.
I understand why you are guarded with him I think we all do but Rome was not built overnight. You need to start small and go from there, pretend you are posting something, pick one thing and talk about that. You can also just go have a good time with him and avoid the R/M talk all together until you begin to build some comfort level. Until YOU start taking those baby steps you rebuild your M you will be spinning your wheels.
