I have to become more passive but speak a bit more about my feelings in my constructive ways.
For instance, old conversation example:
H: I just didn't feel loved anymore and I shut down. I mean we moved here and you were just upset and unhappy about everything. Why is that? I thought we would get in the new house and everything would be better but it just got worse. Then my friends came here and they said you changed too...
H: One hour later... so you understand what I'm telling you? I'm done. I just can't do this anymore.
Me: You're an a$$.
Crazy, huh??? I really do need a psychiatrist.
But Ironman, you are so right. My old relationship is absolutely dead and I have to make a better one. Thank you.
