Sue,

Is it restoring a new R or creating a new one? If he was some new man who you found interesting how would you act? Would it be differently than now? Would you attempt to find the (annoying, I agree) sci-fi shows interesting? Try to join in with him in his pursuits? These are things he enjoys doing, can you in subtle ways begin to enjoy them as well? Build a R and friendship on joint interests or learned interests?

Jackie