hey everyone thanks for the feedback. Michelle to answer your question the DB coach has def told me to validate and to not defend myself. Validate Validate and Validate.
Zen:
She has taken some ownership but very little. In the her mind the breakdown is mainly my fault. I tend to agree with her, I mean I can see where I have fallen short and in comparison to where I was in her mind a few months ago to today, there is a big difference. Her personality and mine are different in the sense that I am A++ personality and she is not. For her to hear "you are right I screwed up" gives her the reassurance to keep going.
IM,
A lot would have to happen in order for me to move forward with the M on both sides. I don't think we are anywhere near the point of talking about it but I agree with you.
grr,
Not mean at all. Thank god for the snow storm last week and thank god for her staying home today. She has told me on more than one occasion that her way to deal with things has been to go non stop. When she is forced to stop and sit at home is when I get the calls.
My goal IF she calls again. No R talk unless she brings it up, just keep it light and nice.
