Wife of 6-years Wants a Divorce - pt 2

[ironMan]

I am a big advocate of men rediscovering their masculinity. Many men start out strong and independent in the eyes of their wife, then after so many years, respect is lost as they learn that the man they married is not the infallible white knight they first thought.

This is why when I see a man post a situation with all the symptoms of lost respect, I advocate focusing on oneself, becoming more decisive, setting boundaries, and so on. Basically working on being more masculine and assertive.

The difficuly lies in getting the man to look at themself and see that they have become beaten down (by life, their R, their situation etc). To pick themself up, forgive themself for past mistakes, and discover the man they can become.

By this I do not mean becoming a jerk. What it means is to learn to truly love and respect yourself. As cliched as it sounds, you cannot expect someone to love and respect you if you do not love and respect yourself. When you TRULY work on you and stop focusing on her and how to fix your connection to each other, THEN there is the possibility she will realize what she is losing.
SF

This is exactly the re-naissance I have experienced, Spellfire. I feel amazing now. I think is is important for most men that I see on here. They start to think that being nice is what their Ws want. It isn't.