I asked for transparency, I asked for counseling (he's thinking on this as he's dead set against it), I asked for no contact with OW even if nothing was really going on, it still affected us, I asked for roommate to move out, I asked for a date night every week and I asked that we find more friends down here by finding a group on meetup.com that we both agree on joining. We kind of had the discussion on the "demands" last weekend. But I didn't present it that way.
He agreed to everything but the counseling so far.
As far as becoming friends, I completely agree. Although, we never got into no contact and we never went dark and I'm pretty sure the longest we went without speaking to one another was about 8 hours (for sleep), I agree that the friendship was only one way. He wanted to be my friend and I was busy trying to "detach."
Michelle, what I can't move on from is that he wants me to talk more. I'm closed up. And it just feels awkward, you know? I hate that awkwardness. How can it be so weird with someone you've been together with for 12 years???
I really appreciate the support. You have no idea.
