Hi, write the letter, as suggested, and then write the response you would like to have from your h. Sounds crazy but it helps.
Actually just over a year ago [over 4 years post bomb] my h poked his head out of the tunnel and told me how sorry he was, and appeared to listen to all I had to say. He told me he knew how much he had hurt me and how terribly sorry he was. We had a few good talks, and then he went right back to being Mr MLC man, mean and nasty.
It was very very weird, but I did get to say some things I wanted to say, nicely, and I got some real closure.
It is as if my h cannnot do normal for more than a few days. The strain gets to him. But he seems to be in there, somewhere along with all the junk!
It is really actions that demonstarte if there is an end to MLC.
