Piecing is almost harder than before...

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JTB - Question. Whenever my W and I have R talks, she tells me her feelings, I listen, I validate, sometimes I agree. On occasion, but not always, I try to tell her my perspective (only after I hear her's not while she's talking). Her response is usually something along the lines of: that makes me feel like you're justifying your actions or making excuses or similar. When she says that, I back off. This has lead to a situation where the "blame" is totally on me. She talks about my actions, I validate and we don't ever get into the details of my perspective. If you were to ask her, she would most likely tell you that I am 99% of the cause of our problems. I'll own half or more, but not all.

I'm not sure how/what to do about this. So far, I've just let it go (more eggshell walking), but when she says things that I patently disagree with it seems counter to long term health to just suck it up.