When I let go of what I'm,I become what I might B

[MichelleLT]

So at this point you consider it part of your strategy to listen and validate then. Has the DB coach encouraged this?

If not, make sure to fit some conversations in where R stuff is not brought up. Don't give her the chance every time. Have a few light, short conversations where you get off the phone before she can hit you with anything.

Leave her with a wonderful fun entertaining conversation with no bitter taste in her mouth (other than perhaps the loneliness she is choosing!).