hello rue,
sorry you find yourself here
my sitch is similar, without the affair
my husband has said there is no turning back and it is my words and actions that brought him to this place
he is out of the house now
this happened last year and i db'd my butt off and it did work
this year, i don't know if anything can, but i'm going to try and so should you
keep coming back here
you will get help and insight from others
just move forward with your life and find the woman he fell in love with
let him contact you
talk again soon


BITS