As the Bolt Turns

[Bolt]

"I'm not sure I can get those in love feelings back."

You know Bolt, human nature is amazing! One S acts and the other reacts. One S pushes and the other pulls. Look at everyones sitch. ALL our S act the same way and all us LBS's react the same way.

All I can tell you is that DB works. My W said the most hurtful things 4 months ago. I've now left har alone for three months and it's worked wonders. We are again ML often and this morning she said "I love you" to me first for the first time.

Now it's time for you to act and her to react. It's time to stop letting our WAS's lead. If we lead they will follow.

I keep hearing that kind of thing can happen. I know that when I detached even a little, she did come closer. My therapist called it a dance. By me pushing, it pushed her away. When I detach, I move away, causing her to move closer...