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I should send MIL flowers for the loss of her mother, right?

No one sees a problem with this under my current situation?

A little hung over today, so making sure that I am thinking clearly.

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Just a little hung over?

It's the right thing to do, and you're doing it for the right reason.



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Hey Jack. As usual, you are right... I'm more than a little hung over... actually a lot hung over. At least it was drinking with W last night that got me this way...

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W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
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I leave 3/2016
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Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
I should send MIL flowers for the loss of her mother, right?



Is that what you would do for a friend?
And even if you and a friend were having challenges, would you appreciate them doing it for you?

I would.


I am being the possibility of:

1) Integrity
2) Loving myself completely.
3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.

"It's do-able." What are the actions now?
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Originally Posted By: Denver_2010

I wish that I would have woken the heck up waaaayyyyy before now. I could have save myself... and more importantly, my W... a lot of heartache.

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Denver,
I couldn't agree more with this statement.

I've been following your sitch closely over the last week or so. I must say that you and many others have inspired me. Keep up the good fight and the best of luck.


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I'd rather the advice be examined and considered, than be told I'm right.

I see this determination and grit in you Denver, just need to scrape off the namby pamby office working city dweller. wink



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Oh trust me Jack... I examine and consider ALL of the advice that I get here.

I can't help it if you are right MOST of the time! wink

And yes, I do have determination when I want something... the grit? I think that I've had a lot of it the past 3 months.

Not sure about the namby pamby office working city dweller comment... LOL!

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Originally Posted By: J3B
I see this determination and grit in you Denver, just need to scrape off the namby pamby office working city dweller.


That word was not chosen by accident I assume Jack?

I agree.


My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
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I didn't capitalize it. Otherwise Mach comes in and starts making his preschool jokes. wink



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Sounds great, Denver. I think you did amazingly well again. It would've been easy for you, with a buzz on ... to turn south and get mad about OM. You're doing great!!

And your other posts helped remind me of some of the crappy ways I made W feel. Thanks for that reminder.


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