I am not suggesting that this is the way for you to do it. I am just telling you that at the time it worked for me and her. Please understand that.
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She keeps crawling and every time she starts to crawl, I run or at least walk and she crawls backwards. It's that proverbial kitten peaking out from behind the couch thing. How stupid can I be? I've got to crawl right along with her. I can do this.
Similar in that, the crawling and she would accuse me of doing something that set her back, us back to zero. Back to the begining.
I remember telling her that it felt like an excuse not to try. That I was hampered by the fear of her saying that. I reminded her that it was her choice to come back and that she begged me for this chance, but that "Back to zero was a BS excuse." That when things got hard and they would have to to get past them, all she had to do was say that and we never resolved any issues.
To be honest, I never herd, "Back to zero" after that. I also...wasn't walking or running in my opinion. I was crawling right next to her, but she was afraid to crawl over some issues that we had to.
It's in my backstory, where its fresh and still accurate. I still stand by what I wrote. If you're interested.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
