Well, I'm on a bit of a roll today. I texted just now and asked (in more neutral language) if he was bummed about not getting a valentine gift because he didn't have a valentine or because he didn't get a gift. Yes, part of me wants to know if he is still with OW (and if yes, that she blew him off and no-gifted). But I also want to know if he expected me to get him something more from the kids. Daughter made sugar cookies and we gave him 2 little valentines like you'd give at school. I would have gotten him something from the kids, like he did for me, if I knew that was the expectation. (Like, I'll do for his bday/fathers day/christmas, until the kids can do it on their own). Valentine's day was always a pretty low key holiday, I figured he got me something nicer since he blew off our anniv and christmas (I acknowledged both with something, but didn't make a big deal out of it)
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
