The problem is, I don't even know which child pychiatrist she's taking our son to, and she ain't gonna give up that info.
This is sounding like serious stuff to me. I think you better get some legal advice....and fast. She's withholding information about your own child and refuses to tell you anything.
I wouldn't take what she said about running away very lightly. Sounds like she could be suffering from a mental problem.
I made my first appointment with an attorney, so we'll see how that goes. Like I mentioned before, I really want to give my wife the benefit of the doubt, based on the vibe I'm getting from her. I know her enough to know that she may actually just be acting childish while trying to protect herself (not legally, but emotionally and socially), and not being all conniving.