Upset

[Truegritter]

Authentically, unconditionally warmly, affectionately, sexually.

What does unconditionally mean?

That's not what I've been taught I've been taught that one sided love is not love at all. It is obsession and unhealthy for the giver, you can't build a bridge from one side.

We have been taught lots of things in our life and it is the disapointment of what we were taught to be true that is the source of a lot of discontent in M.

There is a R called codependent when one perosn becomes intwined in the total welfare of another THAT is unhealthy.

By your definition Jesus was unhealthy.

If you give love and expect it to return some value to you then you WILL suffer.

What's the point in staying then? You're rejected and unwanted. Your love isn't valued, YOU aren't valued. You don't reject them, you just cease putting your attention and energy there and fade to black.

So you rely on someone else to value how much your love is worth. What is it worth to you? Only what you can trade it for?

it will also mean any love and warmth I hold for him matters not AT ALL.

Only if you choose to see it that way.

When you run away, no amount of love that's given to you can help you, you've also abandoned and run from it. You've also tried to run from yourself.
We who do love can't chase you either.

I thought you said you gave up being general manager of the universe?

Do you know what he is thinking and feeling? Does it really matter if it reaches him right now or later. When he decides to see you differently. What matters is YOUR choice. So don't do it for him

Do it becuase it is what you believe and value. Part of this, the most important part Scylla, is figuring out what that is for you.

Then the mystery disolves. The paradox is solved.

Becuase when you know that you cannot fail.

Oh I so disagree with you here. We've been told and taught so many lies, finding the truth is like running a complicated maze.
Lest you think I'm just arguing for the sake of arguing with you Truegritter, I'm not. This is how my thought process is working (or not working) right now. I am a mess.

See previous entry.

I am not here to argue the origin of the universe Scylla.

I am here to guide you along a path that we who take the time to give back here have walked.

And you know how I know what I am telling you is the truth?

Becuase when you get to the end of your journey or at least this part of it you know that there is no other answer.

The people posting to you helped me to learn it. and unlearn all the false thinking that kept me from the knowledge of my own truth.

Know this. You will not see it until you let your anger and resentment go. Until you understand your love is worth the most when it costs nothing.

THAT is indeed a different way of thinking.