My two cents ~ please don't allow yourself to be a 3 times a year father to your children. Some other man if your wife ever remarries will be raising your children.... they need both of you. It is your wife decision to move away...not yours ... she will. I would never agree to be without my children... it's not in the best interest.
How can you split childcare 50/50 when there is a breadwinner and a stay at home mom. That is her job when your not there. Is she not working? If not, how does that cell phone get paid? Good luck on your journey but as the mother of children whose father is absentee at this point.. please don't let your children go that far away.
Thanks for dropping in sandycay,
Right now I cover all the cost including my MIL living with us for the last 6 months. I bet she's pitched in $200 at most. So yes, I pay for her cell phone.
The W is not working right now, but she plans on getting back into the work force once she moves to Albuquerque (1100 miles away from me). Both of our families live in NM and that's what she believes will win her custody if we go that route. She feels that she has a support group setup there. I disagree, because I am stable in the bay area.
I don't want someone else raising my kids. I've been consistent in telling her I do not want to be a part-time father. She tells me I should have never let us get to this point in our M. It's so frustrating, because I believe that I've been a great father.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
