Newbie post What to do now

[JustStunned]

Hello BeingMe, Thank you so much for posting. There are so many people on this board the threads seem to fly through the first pages, so I guess this one is just lost in the shuffle. I cannot figure out how to quote sections of a post.

I did not change the locks. W is respecting my boundary of not entering the house unless I am present. Possibly because there is little left there she can easily remove by herself. I hope not, but it is a real possibility. My L was not enthusiastic about a lock change at this time.

I canceled all of her cleaning plans last week, two of them legitimately and two of them just because I did not want to deal with the drama. I needed time to center myself, probably still do. I’ll know tomorrow night when we meet to discuss what to “clean on Saturday”. I suspect W is losing enthusiasm for this.

I am spending time with mom. She likes to visit and reminisce. We try and keep the conv away from my problems most of the time, but it is an effort for both of us. She likes to talk about her childhood experiences. I know it was a hard existence, but it is amazing how she can remember the good times. I have a sister living in CT, we speak about once a week. She will visit mom in April.

Our S is expecting to get leave before he deploys. I have offered to visit him, I have enough air miles. I speak with him about once a week. DIL listens on the speaker phone. Our D visits most nights after class or work.

The pictures and the MR license came down. They have been boxed and put away. I left a collage of a happy vacation up in a hallway. I just realized I left it up, and I don’t see a good reason to pull it down. There is only one couple shot in it.

I have called a few old friends, and my cousin and his wife will visit this Sunday. I am not as isolated as I was.