Piecing is almost harder than before...

[Bolt]

jtb, you're right about each concerns being of equal importance but when?

According to my W, I've been selfish the last 6 years and she's been looking to get out at least the last 4. It wasn't until she dropped the bomb did I actually get it.

Now that I do, it almost seems too late. I'm DBing/thought I was piecing/now not sure for not too long but my needs are definitely not getting met. I guess we just take it until we can't take anymore?