Bobby, Good to hear from you again and glad you let go, hard to do, I know.
Please be careful here with your wife, as Grit said wait until her actions match her words.
Do not try to aleviate her guilt with statements like this....
Originally Posted By: Bobby O
I told her that we both made mistakes and the first thing to do is listen to each other and get counseling.
Let her do the "work". She is not finished cooking yet. If and when it really hits her you will know, this is going to be hard on you to let her fall. But it is neccessary, if you start the reconciliation process too early there will be problems, do not pursue at all.
Resist the temptation to ease her pain......the pain is what drives us to look deep inside.......think about what made you look inside you. If you did not experience that pain you would not have done that self-examination.
Originally Posted By: Bobby O
She admiited to being jealous and that she still loves me. She is afraid that perhaps too much has happened in order for us to reconcile. She told me that it has been difficult for her and the cildren and that my children are angry with me because of these friendships.
What is she afraid of here?????
She is losing you as Plan B.
She is comitting to nothing here, I cannot tell you how many times I heard "too much has happened" from my XW in conjunction with being nice and friendly. IMO, your W is trying to get you to end the R with your female friend but your W doesn't want to commit to you either.
Tread carefully my friend......sit and a wait, watch and listen, only validate her feelings and keep your opinions of what happened and what you want to yourself.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
