Great post Kalni -- this is precisely what I was getting at in my post about the marriage sermons. It is too easy not to give people space to shine. And, it is what I'm talking about when I say people are being arrogant when they think they know all about what the WAS will do, say, think, feel, be capable of, etc....
If we keep a beginner's mind and give people space to shine, a lot can happen.