Scylla,

This is my first post to your thread. You haven't said anything boring, or shocking, or any other explectives I can think of. We have all been there. This hurt and feeling of betrayal and waste is all consuming - for awhile. Look at it this way. If your H had died of natural causes, would the last ____ number of years be a waste? Of course not! You have children and happy memories and good times to show for it. Just look at the pic. Not now. When you are able to without wanting a flame thrower.

This grieving period is almost more than bearable, BUT, God never gives us more than we can bear. It makes us stronger. I could go on and on with platitudes, but you already know them. It's just harder to believe in them at this time.

Hide in bed for awhile if you want to. Pull the covers over your head and don't come out except for oxygen. This too shall pass.
Come here to vent. We hear you. We understand. Whether or not your marriage weathers this is still to be seen. As maddeningly as this sounds, I'll tell you what was told to me when I first came here. YOU WILL KNOW. To go forward, backward, sideways. You will know. Just tie a knot in the rope and hang on. And my favorite saying:

Keep passing the open windows. ((HUGS))


ME: 54
Him: 51
M: 20 years T: 21 years
OW/New wife: 36
Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36)
Bomb: March 4, 2010
He Filed: April 28, 2010
I Contested: May 1, 2010
Standing Down: 11/24/10
Divorced : 05/04/2011