Good day Sue, I'm so glad to hear that you have talked. The whole thing around the invitation is a case in point where the lack of communication nearly shut the door. The whole thing about him waiting for an invitation is two fold, but they both put an emphasis on you having to make more "first" moves.
First, he is sure that he wants to spend Christmas with you, but he was waiting to hear from you that you want to spend it with him. I think this can be use to give some insight into his thoughts on the "bigger" picture. I think you need to come up with some 180's that show what you feel about him. How would it go over if you ask him on a date?
The second part is there definately seems to be a wall there when it comes to communication...
Quote: ..so I said "from who", "my sister"..(as we had talked about not wanting to go to her house)he just laughed and said "no"...
The current pattern of interaction seems to lend to a lot of guessing / mindreading going on for both of you which will lead some incorrect ASSumption being made on both sides. I don't know if you H even sees it, but I think you are gonna have to be the first to start tearing down that wall by not requiring of him to guess or mindread your thoughts and let him know you are genuinely interested in hearing about his thoughts too. Hopefully, by opening up more will lend to him doing the same and then that wall will come tumbling down.
