She is afraid that perhaps too much has happened in order for us to reconcile.
Has there been Bobby?
Only you can answer that question.
And don't tell her.
Show her.
Originally Posted By: Bobby's W
She told me that it has been difficult for her and the cildren and that my children are angry with me because of these friendships.
This bothers me. She is still doing the blame game and being the victim.
Not to say that you shouldn't think of reconciling Bobby.
What does it really look like to you when you would consider reconciling with her?
Originally Posted By: Bobby
My wife is on the fence at present but I believe we can work through things. I did not tell my wife I love her but deep down I never stopped loving her. If I could get her to agree to counseling then perhaps it is a start.
My advice? Letter her stay on the fence until she decides to step over to you side or rather the side of your M together.
I would not pursue her or make suggestions of counseling. Let her take that step for the M if she wants it.
This isn't about tit for tat Bobby.
Do you think this reconciliation process will have a chance of success if she is only doing it out of the emotion of anger and jealosy?
Let her keep sorting through her feelings.
You? Just keep listening. Validate those feelings etc. you know the drill.
Is it a good thing? Maybe. Just sit back and listen and more importantly watch.
When her actions back up her words to reconcile.
Then you can decide if that is enough for you to risk your heart and trust again Bobby.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
