Newbie- Very Lost- Not Sure where to start

[tdb68]

Thanks sandi2 for the response. I don't really think this is another EA, while the "hiding" and her paranoia seem the same, the other traits are not there. When I get home at night, she still just wants to spend time together, conversation that we had only when things were very good, part of what I missed early on was her need for me to "listen", and now that I do that, it seems as though she can not do without. There has been dinner on the table when i walked in the door from work, every single day since the divorce idea, and we sit there with our two sons and have very nice normal family dinner conversations every night. During her last WAW, and the EA, she completely ignored me when the family was at the table .. ZERO to say to me, now she engages all of us equally. This is why I keep posting that I am confused, as the traits are so different as a whole this time. Could I be with someone facing MLC? I am just really reading all of the posts and comments to look for the commonality with my sitch. Still working on LRT, but her wanting me to continue to be her best friend and talk about her day, "going dark" seems to backfire.. I am monitoring my results, and that is the only one that seems to not be working, yet, from my understanding is going to be a critical part of LRT, and was what my MC recommended, "make her miss you". Just deepens my confusion.