It has been quite some time since I have reported and I for the most part gave up on salvaging the marriage. In the last several weeks I detatched totally and had been working on legal things for a separation agreement. Within the last several days there have beensome significant events. My wife learned of a friendship that developed with a woman and a woman I grew up with. These women have been good people and have been supportive during this long process. In any case my wife made contact to these woman to stop the relationship. My wife has been calling me multiple times in the day and night and now is actually talking and me listening to events that were problems in the marriage. She admitted that she realizes that it takes 2 in a relationship and that she for almost 2 years had shut me out. I told her that we both made mistakes and the first thing to do is listen to each other and get counseling. She admiited to being jealous and that she still loves me. She is afraid that perhaps too much has happened in order for us to reconcile. She told me that it has been difficult for her and the cildren and that my children are angry with me because of these friendships. I did point out to my wife that she herself told me to date and find someone because there was no future for us. Ironicaly the legal paperwork for a separation is being done. My wife is on the fence at present but I believe we can work through things. I did not tell my wife I love her but deep down I never stopped loving her. If I could get her to agree to counseling then perhaps it is a start. The ways of God are strange as I gave up on this marriage. Will post more as things develop. I do appreciate everyone who has posted to me in the past. Bobby O
