We see very bad role models for marriage all our lives, and then we have bad marriages. I don't ever thank my husband for looking up his old girlfriend and starting an affair with her, but I know that it took that for us to get to the crisis point and reach out for help, and finally learn how to treat a spouse properly. In the end, going thru this can be a very good thing for a marriage.
I am sorry that I wasted about 20 years of my life being dissatisfied with my husband and showing it. He is a good man and deserved better. But at least we have the rest of our lives to do it right. And that is what we are trying to do.
Yes. That's what I said earlier. I will get over everything that has happened. And if I have 30-40 years of being happily married to my W as a result of what is happening now... it will be worth it.
And... BTW... I never had a good role models for M.... I'm sure that this is partly why I didn't know how to be a good H...
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
