We see very bad role models for marriage all our lives, and then we have bad marriages. I don't ever thank my husband for looking up his old girlfriend and starting an affair with her, but I know that it took that for us to get to the crisis point and reach out for help, and finally learn how to treat a spouse properly. In the end, going thru this can be a very good thing for a marriage.
I am sorry that I wasted about 20 years of my life being dissatisfied with my husband and showing it. He is a good man and deserved better. But at least we have the rest of our lives to do it right. And that is what we are trying to do.
