today and why do i even want him?

[zengypsy]

grr..

my sister....I just don't know what to say. Talk about a mind F?!

Listen, I've worked with national act bands myself. And yes, you have a point that the singer (and guitar player) are usual pretty self-absorbed. They have the biggest egos in the band which is prob why when you here that a band breaks up it's because of conflict with the singer an guitar player. But does that give your H a free pass? NO!!! I think alot of these musicians start with a "stage" persona vs. what theya re like in real life. At some point I think those 2 personas bleed into one another and their reality gets so warped they end up not really knowing who they truly are anymore. Maybe this is what happend to your H.

It sounds like the room for your son was the bomb and that he was so over the moon about it. Just remember that reaction your son had. I'm sure it was a proud mom moment for you as well. To look at your son and see for a brief moment how the little things can really take you away from all the bs even if it's for a few short seconds. It would be worth it to me if I had kids.

I'm praying for you grr. You have been a good friend to me on these boards. I hope we can meet someday and under much better circumstances.

YOU ROCK grr. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.