2 and I share that fear. This is the 2nd time for me as well. This M has been a part of me for almost 1/2 my life. I don't count my first M either. We were both young. I was immature and had no buisness being M. It was merely a dress rehersal.
I didn't want to get M again, but my H really made me believe in love and trust again. I was proud of the decision I had made to get M again. I had everything I always wanted and look where my stupidity and ignorance has gotten me 20 yrs. later. And like 2 loved being M to his W, I loved being M to my H.
The 80% statistic for 3rd marriages not lasting is very scary. I don't like that either but I know that is the reality of what the facts state. And I can't even think about that place. In truth, I'd rather be alone if I can't be with my H and with such a high probability to potentially go thru this kind of heartbreak again.
I agree with you Michelle. That if we never learned any relationship skills from our parents, how are we to know what to do in our own? Are we destined to fail because of those lack of skills?
You have engaged us in a very interesting discussion IMHO. Sorry 2, I thread jacked!
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
