The unexamined life is not worth living

[Denver_2010]

denver...
I do NOT think she is cake eating at all

truegritter is right...
she would be cake eating if she hadn't already moved on
but she did

you need to stop focusing on the symptom (OM) and start focusing more on the problem (what brought you to a point where an OM was even an option)

do you want to focus on the headache and take lots of tylenol etc
or
do you want to focus ont he brain tumor that is causing the headaches

Yes, Fig. After thinking about it, I think that you, Gritter, and Jack are all correct. W is not really cake eating at this point. I think that she is just trying to figure her life out at this point.

I'm wondering why everyone thinks that I have been focusing on OM so much?? Maybe I need to be reminded of something that I've said in one of my posts.

Have I been focusing on the fact that my W was 'dating' while we've been separated? Yes... bc that was a shock to my system (since I was in extreme denial)... But on OM himself? Honestly no. I am confident that W would be making a huge mistake if she were to choose to pursue R with him over trying to reconcile our M.