The unexamined life is not worth living

[Denver_2010]

You are focusing way too much on the OM right now...

And right now. you are more of an obstacle to yourself then he is...

She is watching right now, to see a new you.

Right now your actions should be speaking louder than anything you say.

By obsessing on the OM, you are giving him all of your power in what you can or can't do.

When you become the man you envision, he will fall away...

Question ?

Are you more afraid of him ?

Or of reconciliation , then slipping back into familiar patterns of behavior ?

I'm just not convinced you are sure of yourself..

There was an excellent discussion on Sparks14's thread last week about who is more wrong in what has happened in the past...That was why I asked you to read it when we talked...

Thanks Mach. I'm not sure that I'm all that focused on OM right now. I'm more focused on focusing on staying true to the work that I've done here.

I may vent about OM here, but I honestly think that my W is just looking for a way out of that mess.

Am I more afraid of him, or of slipping back into familiar patterns of my own behavior?

That a simple answer Mach! I'm way more afraid of slipping back into old patterns of behavior. That is my greatest fear by far.

OM? Not afraid of him in any way, sort or manner. Afraid that W will yet choose to pursue R with him over reconciliation? Yes. Somewhat bc OM's final chapter hasn't quite been written.

But any thoughts that I have had re W and OM has decreased quite a bit over the past couple of days. I'm not saying that I'm over what I found out on Thursday night. But I am beginning to accept it... and everything that led to it.

P.S. Just didn't have time to catch up on Sparks thread... Sorry man!