The unexamined life is not worth living

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Lotus, Fig's and Grit's advice competeing with the OM are right on target.

That's how it should be.

in the Shite however with muck on your boots and your bayonette set?

OM shows her attention, or has. Does that mean you don't if your not competing? pffftp, please. Of course you do.

Some things are going to end up as a competition in your head. You're not going to help it, despite any one here telling you not too.

In a sprint, you got burned, you're still in the starting blocks tying your shoes with a baffled look on your face.

But this? This is a marathon, and you have alot of advantages.

Food for thought, and from experience, don't trying kissing her differently, it bugged the shi...heck out of her. Said I was doing it weird. That's how thinking of this as a competion HURTS you.

In your mind, your competing with him. So you are.

You should be competing with as Fig, Grit and Locus hae said, your old self, or her memory of you.

That guy? You should be able to smoke...easily.

Until you guys decide what your doing, its a moot point right?
(cue up This is War)
Right?

Cause...I might have read it wrong, but I thought she left the ball in your court about reconcilling, I thought you agreed to it based upon what you said...

I might have read that wrong, but if I didn't whats all this might pussyfooting around crapp?

: )

Advice:
Do not, do not attack the OM verbally to her. Or physically if you are really stupidly inclinded. She'll defend, more than likely, and you'll end up getting p/o'ed about it. Play chess? Thats 2 moves ahead thinking. The vets will tell you its a bad call, bad choice, bad outcome.

One of my favorite memories, is when my wife was busting on her former OM. I smiling right now thinking about it, I didn't even join.

Straight up competition?
You come off better than the OM by being better than the guy you used to be.

Cake eating...

Is she getting something she wants from both of you, while keeping one or both of you in the dark? Something that most would consider morally...wrong?

It's like "doormat" everyone has their own definition.

Your concern about her not wanting to hurt him.

That's the empathy you need Denver. That's good.