As the Bolt Turns

[angel61]

Bolt, it does make sense to me. She has all her support processes in place, you have none. That would put me in a panic as well. Although we are here for you, we are not tangible.

Take a deep breath, Bolt. You have to plan, to have something solid. Since the lease signing is tomorrow, there is so much pressure on you, and on her as well.

What you need right now is time. Is there a way you can buy some from your W?

In my sitch, in emergencies I found that my H was able to set aside some of his issues and work with me as a team. There was a time that because of my devastation I could no longer work efficiently and my boss talked to me and asked me to focus as an important meeting I was organizing was coming up. I sat down with H and asked that we set aside all talk about D, about S, and if we could at least be friends for the time being, it would defuse the tension and make me more focused. It took a lot for me to admit my down moment because I was actually trying to GAL, act as if, and actually he was surprised as he said he thought I was healing and getting stronger, but in the end I told him that I am only human and even if I am trying hard I had my down moments. he did understand and together we pulled through.

I do not know if you are in a position to be able to ask that of your W, only yourself can tell. I also do not know if that is in line with DB techniques, probably not, but when your life and sanity is on the line, I guess anything is worth trying.