When I let go of what I'm,I become what I might B

[MichelleLT]

In most cases yes. It's often only after the WAS has filed for D that they slow down enough to see that the single life isn't all they've made it out to be. That they let themselves miss things. That they see that getting D is crappy financially and emotionally. Then they start to have second thoughts. Then you have been DBing long enough that they start to wonder.