it is her choice if she even wants to apologize to you
you betrayed her by digging through her emails and then telling other people about it
how would her affair play into custody anyway? It won't. I have never agreed with people who keep that crap...you are putting it "on the shelf" just like she is doing with OW.
your apology has nothing to do with her actions... your apology has to dowith yours and what brought your marrage to the point where she would feel like she needed to have an affair in order to have her emotional needs met
the affair isn't just about HER betrayal
I am not apologizing to garner an apology in return.
I was simply bringing up the avoidance piece as my therapist brought it up. That is the only time I brought up how the avoidance goes both ways. I was in no way intending that I was somehow forcing an apology from my wife.
My intention is to take responsibility for my actions and mine only tonight. I expect nothing in return.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
