Need Advice!! Not sure on next move? Part 2

[Firstlove]

Dixie

I think you got good and valid advice from your DB coach. And as to the spouse, be it either H or W, I agree 100% that we should never participate in the destruction of our marriage and our family, because that is what divorce does, it destroys. I know that my wife sees divorce as the ONLY solution to our problems- and she won't even talk for 2 minutes about them or go to counseling with me - her ONLY course of action is this

1. Stay away with on contact
2. Never talk
3. Refuse to go for counseling
4. Divorce is the only answer to the problem

that is my challenge here. I will not participate in the destruction of my marriage and family - if my W wants that, she is going to have to do that 100% on her own. I will not even agree to sign D papers if it comes to that. If she serves me with D papers, I will merely throw them out. Somehow I don't think I am going to be put into jail for that and I don't think that God will be disappointed with me for not tearing down that which He created even though my wife wants to. Basically I am taking the attitude that its ME AND GOD against the W - two against one - and I am counting on my team to win the day.

FL