She can do whatever the hell she wants. She has! She left you! She moved to another state!
You can't control her. You never could.
You can control you though.
You need to get healthy, mentally and physically. To find your happy place. To find your confidence. To KNOW that no matter what happens, you WILL be fine. You won't just survive, you will THRIVE.
If she chooses not to be with you, that's HER LOSS.
I'll tell you a little secret that most newcomers don't believe. THE LBS DECIDES THE FATE OF THE MARRIAGE OVER 80% OF THE TIME.
NOT the WAS.
She's not in control. She can't control you any more than you can control her.
You are right, your expectations are killing you. You act like one good conversation and she should come home. If you had one good date with a new person would you expect them to move in with you? Of course not!
You are trying to start a NEW MARRIAGE with her, not revive the old one. She doesn't want things to go back to how they were, and you can't either!
You are not only starting from square one as if dating someone new, but you are starting from a NEGATIVE because of the past hurts.
Patience.
You are making SO MUCH progress. Don't shoot yourself in the foot.
Holy Cow now that is what a call a 2x4!! Michelle how much do I owe you? I gotta get my head out of my a$$ and re-focus!! I just read it again. I am going to print it and put it on my mirror, I mean it! THANK YOU.
