Hi Denver ... not sure I ever discussed it in detail. But in the beginning, when I was begging her not to go and trying to find out why she wanted to separate she implied that she never got to choose me really, and feels that she really missed out on an important part of life because she didn't get to date a lot before we met.
She also said that she needed to separate because she wasn't a good wife. That she was only not doing things because she didn't want to hurt me ... not because she didn't want to do them and that wasn't right.
She also said when I pressed that there was somebody she wanted to date but that she didn't know how to reach him anymore.
What a selfish B
Uggg... Ironman. It absolutely kills me to say this, but do you really think that your W is being selfish?
Man, something is hurting inside of her... she feels that something with HER life is incomplete. It isn't selfish for her to explore that and to figure out IF what she has now is happiness for HER.
All of us only have one shot at this crazy roller coaster of life... Your W too.
As badly as I KNOW this hurts you, you need to be the rock right now. If you truly love your W, unconditionally, you will let her process this... and figure out what path she wants for HER own life... NOT your's... hopefully that path leads back to you...
But...
That can only happen if you are the rock in your M... and the lighthouse for her to find her way home.
This will take time and patience Ironman... and you WILL be bloodied in this battle...
but I really think that it will happen for you.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
