Do you think that I should just dive into using the avoidance? I was thinking more in line as just stating it as a matter of fact that my therapist suggested we use the word due to the heavy tone of the word betrayal. "We have been tossing this word betrayal around pretty loosely. I think it would be better if instead we used the word avoidance instead."
I think it would depend on how it is played out...
IF you are accusing HER of betrayal...yea, take a couple eye patches for yourself , you can put those on when yours are scratched out...
Admitting betrayal in your actions...???
Maybe that is the honesty you have been missing...
Fig ? Cat ?
So I have been throwing the word betrayal around pretty loosely to my wife and in our therapy. My wife committed adultery. She had an affair. She betrayed me. She destroyed my heart and our trust. Her actions are why I am here and our marriage is at a breaking point.
Is it now time to take a step back and instead of pointing fingers at the effects of the affair, we try and turn it... you avoided telling me of the affair. You avoided telling me when you were questioning your sexuality before committing the affair? I avoided asking about the affair when I had suspicions and instead checked your email. I avoided telling you when I knew the truth of the affair before I told my parents.
It just sounds weird to me I guess. Almost as if the words don't line up.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
