Well Dixie... I can't argue with your DB Coach. She/he is the expert. That all sounds like very good advice.

I will also encourage you to really keep that "excusing yourself to the bathroom" idea in mind when you go. I used that during my dinner with W when I began to feel emotional. It helped. A LOT.

BITS
Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce