H: I love you but I am not in love with you anymore. H: I thought things were bad since the move but since talking to my friends, I now know the breakdown happened well before the move. H: I didn't feel loved anymore. I felt like I could never do anything right. Then I just shut down. I have nothing left for you. H: I just can't do anything with you. Laughing and have a good time with you just seems so wrong. H: I don't know if there is hope for us anymore. I am thinking seriously about a divorce. H: I need to leave. Separation is the only thing left to do. H: I am calling a lawyer in the morning. H: You keep asking me if there is any hope left and I just need to tell you that I don't have a single shred of hope left. H: I just can't be around you anymore. H: I don't love you anymore. H: I have decided that I am leaving.
I understand what you are saying, 2Step. Her words and her actions are saying two entirely different things, though. Time to stop paying too much attention to the words and start focusing a bit more about the actions.
Let me ask you a question, do you initiate conversations with her? I mean I know we were told not to. I followed those rules. They were a disaster for my situation. Your relationship might be in a different place where it is time to refine the rules a bit.
