Thanks SC - I think yours is good advice and perhaps I should have done nothing and just left it - but I went ahead and left the poem at her place - all wrapped up as a gift for her.
I found it "interesting" that she never even opened it up - it is still sitting on her counter - unopened. I had to go over there to fetch the dogs that I look after during the day and saw thru the kitchen window that the box is just sitting there wrapped.
She is most definitely in a very very different place than me - both physically and emotionally
FL
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