Hey LITB, sorry I've only just caught up with your thread. I take it that you've gotten legal advice on how to approach an uncontested divorce, right? Well, if that's the case, you know more than I do. Is the six months wait a required time before finalizing, or maximum time given to you to sign the papers? As you know, my wife wants to do an uncontested too, and I want to try to go with it, but be firm at the same time. The thing is, if I drag my decision for the full six months, wouldn't that look like stubbornness/retaliation/stalling to my wife?
My son is also the top of my worry list in terms of custody (hate that word). I'm afraid she might renege on her desire for us to care for our son 50/50.[/quote]
Hey Alamo, We did have a consultation with a L about a month ago. The W wanted to move the kids during spring break, but after meeting with the L, she knew it wasn't legal. For the most part, I had a good idea what my rights were, but I wanted the W to hear it from a L. I'm the last person she wants advice from.
Here are my thoughts. I will agree to file uncontested with her if we can agree on fair terms, which there aren't any fair terms about her taking our kids to another state. By filing, an automatic restraining order is put in place that does not allow the kids to be relocated to another state for 6 months. I believe this is considered a cooling off period before the D is finalized. Near the end of the 6 months I can evaluate how things have transpired up to that point. If things have not changed, I may very well obtain a L and try to keep the kids with me. I don't want to go down that road, because I know there wouldn't be any chance of saving my M.
I hope that answers some of your questions.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
