Let me ask you a quick question ... what would the old sparks that your W hates ... what would he do in this meeting? Would he justify his actions? Would he make it a fight?
Do the opposite. See how your W reacts.
Ironman, are you talking 180?
If so, man, I have no idea. Communication has always been different in therapy versus at home. When we communicated at home, there were a ton of defenses that turned to arguments... and justifications. When we were in therapy, communication was awesome. Validation. True listening.
So 180 from the worst sparks was the communication from couples therapy sparks. Make sense?
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
