Piecing is almost harder than before...

[Bolt]

thanks guys. I did go into DB mode seriously. I validated her feelings and said I understood. I did a TON of listening and told her to look at the man I'm becoming.

She keeps coming back to the feeling of love. She isn't sure if she'll ever feel that she loves me again. I asked her what's her definition of love. She gave me how SHE feels to BE loved - all things I'm doing in spades and I can see she feels it. She TELLS me (at other times) that she feels it.

I said but what's your definition of being in love with someone? She really couldn't answer that one. I told her that she has been showing me loving feelings. I told her of the times when she cuddles with me and holds my hand and does all of those little things that I need to feel loved - that's love. That's showing the other person that you love them...

I didn't make a huge point of it but I told her I'm not giving up on her that easy. It's a long road and I'm here to fight for her. To be that man that I know she wants me to be.

She told me about her walls that she built up for so long and that she's been planning this "move" for a long time. I said, I understand that you feel like you are hiding behind this wall to protect yourself from the pain. I then said that I'm waiting outside of that wall, trying to help tear it down.

She even said a few days ago that the walls are slowly coming down.

I have to remember that...

It's funny because right now, she's on the phone talking with her mom and including me in the convo - as if nothing happened...

The good thing is her mom is a HUGE proponent of us and has a knack for smacking her in the nose when she needs it...

(inhale) Time for more work - even if that means me giving space...