Ignore all of what they say - Because if you don't and catch on everything and feel bad or good, then you are sure to be on a emotional roll coaster.
Ignore half of what they do - Because they are in a fog and seeing a mirage of happiness after the divorce, better to ignore certain actions just as long they are not permanently damaging. Like my W came one day and took all of her stuff and my daughter's stuff. House became 50% empty. But that's okay. When we reconcile, it is just gonna cost me a truck rental to get their things back... I feel better if i reason my W's actions this way. I could be wrong.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...