Oh God, Bolt. And people wonder why I am scared to death that my husband wants to reconcile.
Bolt, there has to be more to this conversation. Are there any additional stressors this week? Are you packing? Was there a downpayment due? What is going on in the house?
My initial reaction right now is that she's confused. She is still talking about you moving with her to hometown but then maintaining separate residences. I'd be more worried if she told you to stay in CA. She is still emotionally shut down. So essentially she's going through the motions with you, but she can't open up. I soooooooooooo understand this!!!! I'm struggling with the same exact thing right now and it is so frustrating. I want my husband back so bad and when he asks me to move back home, I freeze and I can't generate an emotion. He leaves with the impression that I don't want him anymore and I feel even more crappy. DB'ing was easier that this reconciliation stuff. It really is.
When you ask if you should let her go, what are you asking? Let her go for now? Let her go permanently?
Sweetie, I know you are in shock right now, but its time to go back to your original goals and stay the course. Remember, the road back is not straight. Just validate what she is saying. Don't try to convince her that she has those loving feelings toward you. And trust your gut. Meaning, you said in your heart you feel she will come back to you. Well, trust your gut and ride this out.
I'm so sorry, Bolt. I know this is painful. I'm praying for you!
