Wife of 6-years Wants a Divorce - pt 2

[Redo]

Alamo, one the reasons my W wanted the D is because she caught me watching porn one day. The thing being that i started going that route just recently because our relationship was drying out and somehow my W and I were never able to confront it and make it better.

In the whole scheme of things i would say don't worry about this one aspect.

Regarding valentine's day, I would say feel good that you had your time with your son. My daughter and W live with her parents about 250miles from my place and i somehow was expecting that my W would make my daughter call up. This morning i tried to dismiss those expectations too. As i said, detachment brings peace into your life that you will need so much.

I have a question for ya, Karma: did you and your wife agree to mutually agree on how to raise your daughter after the separation/divorce? My wife told me when she first annonced the separation that she'd like for us to be able to discuss and agree together on our son's life, etc. I'm just wondering why your wife is holding y'all's daughter from just calling you even on Valentine's Day.

Hey Alamo: Yup, we did agree on raising our daughter by being friends after the divorce. Both of us agreed that we should not have any fights in our divorce process. I do feel like i made more concessions than her, but i am okay with those. I did not use a lawyer. Just last weekend we finalized our asset splitting and custody issues. The discussions went very smooth and there were even some jokes. So now my W's lawyer will draft up a new divorce petition. My W and I will review it and if everything looks okay, we'll sign the papers. I hate doing this, but i gotta do it to show her i am willing to let go of her so she can go and look for the "happiness" that she's craving so much.

For the valentine's day, I think it must have been quite awkward for my W too to make my daughter call me up. If that happened, then there would be awkward expectation of us talking. I guess that's why she did not make that call. At-least that's what i am telling myself. You know i've heard stories about spouses using kids to inflict pain on the other spouse. I am still not buying that about my wife.