New to this community seeking advice 3

[AJM]

JR09, I didn't see your original posts. Might have to go back and look. This caught my attention from this thread though:

I wonder if W notices that I am really trying to make up for lost time by attending all these games because I want to be a better father. Who knows, huh? yes...who knows...

Can I point something out here (you saw it later in your thread, but worth repeating): You need to focus on the boys, being the best father you can be, and YOURSELF. What your wife does or doesn't do, is her responsibility, but what you do is yours.
Regardless of what happens with your wife or when, it is far more important that you do things for you. It'll relieve your stress, help you make positive changes, and will be sustainable for YOU. Which in turn helps your boys know their father. That's all very important.
One other thing. People who leave have no timetable. Get that out of your head and focus on what you want out of your life and out of your relationships. The rest will fall into place, but always be kind. As the old saying goes, choose soft and sweet words, because you may have to eat them later
The timetable is rubbish. I've known plenty of people who years after their divorce get back together. Why? Because it isn't about you when it all comes down to it. Not to say you were perfect. Far from it. Neither was she. That becomes much more apparent after much time has passed in many cases. Not all of course.

Be patient. Be consistent. Be your new improved self. Be the father you always wanted to be. Be the man you always wanted to be and the rest will fall into place regardless of the relationship outcome. Really.

AJ